tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post3073467092946997128..comments2023-10-29T21:14:24.325+08:00Comments on SHE in China: Chinese man + western girlJonna Wibeliushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-8630331245542980172012-07-07T16:54:55.556+08:002012-07-07T16:54:55.556+08:00Well, I'm a very westernized mexican male in C...Well, I'm a very westernized mexican male in California, and although attracted to a variety of ethnicities, the best relationships are with Filipinas. Westerinized Mexicans are almost indistinguishable from westernized Filipinos, they mesh very well. Both have good work ethics, similar culture/religion, regard for family, and driving too slow on Southern California freeways (ha lol). I also can be really attracted to vietnamese women, and dark japanese women. I guess it can be said that i tend to like darker asian women. That makes a huge difference in my attraction to them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-35269468457159485692012-01-15T06:13:46.398+08:002012-01-15T06:13:46.398+08:00Hi, I found this blog very useful and interesting....Hi, I found this blog very useful and interesting.<br />I'm a western woman, living in Europe and I work at a chinese company. My problem is that there is a Chinese guy whom I like really much. He mentioned that he is planning a date with me.. I don't know if he is serious or not. <br />What is important that he knew I have a bad relationaship, but he was waiting for me to become single nad now he is planning to go out for a date with me.<br />He is really open-minded, clever very humorous but I don't know many things about him because he seems a little uncommunicative about his private life.<br />I think I'll say yes if he invites me for a date, but you know what a little disturbing is that Chinese girl (our colleagues) like him a lot, he is always going with that girls everywhere... Is it common in Chinese culture? If Chinese girls like him so much why he wants to date with me? I'm a bit confused cause he is so different like other guys... :)Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-72388964112920549362011-09-18T15:00:40.091+08:002011-09-18T15:00:40.091+08:00I think your assumptin are really good Joanna. But...I think your assumptin are really good Joanna. But I would say that it not just the Chi men that apperars more feminin in eyes of the uniformed wersterner, actually pretty much all east-asians do. Wich tends to decrease the attractivens of east-asian man to the average western female and increase the attractivens of east-asian women to the average western male and partially explain the disproportion in mixed realationships.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-48853879017190153662011-07-05T16:00:43.620+08:002011-07-05T16:00:43.620+08:00I am a western woman and have always been attracte...I am a western woman and have always been attracted to Asian men.<br />I have dated two in my life, but they were living in western countries. I have found them to be more caring, loving and romantic than many western guys. They were generous with gifts and attention. There was no problem with me being a university graduate and persuing a career.<br />We were very much equals, shared housework, cooking , cleaning etc. One of them is now married to a western woman and is an excellent husband and father. <br />I am tall and blonde and don't mind my guy being smaller. I love the soft, hairless Asian skin and size doesn't matter.What's wrong with a guy looking after himself, smelling good and dressing well?I find it sexy. And loving someone is not just about size and sex, but the way they treat you and make you feel. My Asian guys have made me feel good about myself.Only regret: I never got married to one of them.<br />I don't want to generalise, but I think if you fancy an Asian guy, forget the stereotypes and give it a go. He may just surprise you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-36625626045550936992011-06-19T20:49:10.696+08:002011-06-19T20:49:10.696+08:00Did anyone mention about education background?
In ...Did anyone mention about education background?<br />In China (or in general the far east) the education system does not encourage people to be humorous, confident, outgoing and masculine. I will give some examples. <br />(1) Chinese students study much harder than western students, thus they have less time for other activities including partying, music and sports.<br />(2) In fact the education system does not provide for much room for other activities as well. Academic results are all the counts for entering college, and most Chinese students don't get a chance to attend western style social occasions like high-table dinners and parties until they reach adulthood.<br />(3) Chinese education system does not encourage creativity and confidence. Chinese students are only required to memorize what is taught to them, but are not encouraged to express themselves and their own opinions.<br />(4) Chinese guys do not have strong sense of masculinity. Taiwanese, Japanese and Hong Kong dramas all portray handsome men as having long hair, pale skin and slim figure. I observe that most western guys work out at a certain age, but the percentage of Chinese guys who work out is much much lower.<br /><br />As a result, most Chinese young people when compared to western counterparts, are relatively boring, timid, introvert and feminine. <br /><br />But I would also point out that I do not believe this is a matter of ethnical differences. Asian people are not generally less masculine. Historically the Mongols were very masculine people. Their warriors conquered half of Europe! So I think it is more of a matter of culture.Alvinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-2501590376686518962011-06-13T04:43:49.314+08:002011-06-13T04:43:49.314+08:00if you are a man with confidence and security in y...if you are a man with confidence and security in yourself, open and positive mind, spontaneous personality, sense of humor, all women will come to you. regardless where you come from, no question asked.Zidongnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-77586677076518247002011-05-14T12:05:17.845+08:002011-05-14T12:05:17.845+08:00Jonna Wibelius,
Actually, from looking at your ph...Jonna Wibelius,<br /><br />Actually, from looking at your photos with chinese people on your blog, you look rather petite compare to them. You are vertically taller. I think you are about the same height as most chinese men. But you have a smaller head and smaller, narrower body frame than most chinese men and women (based on the photos). It's not always about vertical height. I think Chinese are about the same average height as southern Europeans and Mexicans<br /><br />In terms of housework, most western women are better at housework than chinese women. Western women learn to cook and clean at an early age by doing choirs. Chinese women never do choirs when growing up. Their only main concern is studying and getting good grades. And then it's college, then career after that. They learn to cook and clean for the first time when they get marry and move out of their parents' house (which means they won't be good at it, since they are doing it for the first time). So if you want a good housewife, a man should marry a western woman. Better yet, a Latino woman. They learn cooking, cleaning, and taking care of younger siblings as early as 5 years old.<br /><br />If you didn't know, in a lot of Asian households (Japanese, Chinese, Thai, ect.), the women have total control of the money. The man gives the wife his paycheck, and she determines how to spend it. The man gets an allowance from the wife. Any major expense like joining a gym, the man would have to ask the wife for permission first. Would a western man ever hand his paycheck to his wife and let her have total control of their life savings?<br /><br />In terms of the masculinity/femininity, I think, a lot of northern european males look very feminine. The men and women have that soft, radiant, "fresh out of the womb" skin. They look very delicate and feminine, and they sunburn real easily. If you look at the Chinese from the south, especially from the villages, they have this rough, tan, sinewy appearance, and they never get sunburn.<br /><br />In terms of behavior, in depends on what. Chinese tend to be louder than westerners (who tend to be more quiet). Chinese tend to be more blunt and direct in saying things (like "you gained weight"). They see no problem in spitting, and coughing in public where westerners seem prudish about these things. But I guess Chinese have thst Confucian values which is to respect your elders and respect authority. However, you don't ever cheat Chinese people when it comes to money. Authority or not, they will go ballistic you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-87763011150836806952011-05-01T14:43:50.387+08:002011-05-01T14:43:50.387+08:00I skimmed through some detail of the context becau...I skimmed through some detail of the context because your thoughts being presented were not all well organized. I do see a lot of chinese girl and white guy matches in China during my summer vocation visits. While it is true that chinese girls are frequently matched with white men, it can also be said that chinese men are matched with white girls. Infact, I see that combination a lot in New York; even starting at the ages of high school.<br /><br />1. Men are born with stronger bones ? If you are referring to stereotypes, <br /><br />2. White girls in the modern world are assimilating asian culture, specifically from china, korea, and japan. Chinese guys are playing around much in the latest technology.<br /><br />3. umm.. the chinese (innovative, proficient ones- very few) are extremely fluent in English. (Most of them have probably moved on to the UK by now.)<br /><br />4. At the handball courts/academies in New York, I believe the "big shot asians" are there. Sophisticated, healthy lifestyle can be seen throughout the body. In most of China, average faces everywhere except a few spots.<br /><br />I am Chinese (canto)M. Preferably active, individualized, knowledgeable, and emotionally stable (also natural good looks) traits of a woman are highly prized. However, the two most important traits in my opinion is the ability to "start a new time" and "productive sense".Johnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-44109202990127547962011-04-17T00:49:01.694+08:002011-04-17T00:49:01.694+08:00Hi All :)
Who says asian males are not sex symbol...Hi All :)<br /><br />Who says asian males are not sex symbols in the movies???? Look at jet Li and Chow yun Fat.<br /><br />I also want to say something about european woman being too masculine?<br />Look as european girl you have to pretend you are a tough cookie especially outside cause otherwise you get groped! A lot of european girls learn to hit immediatly to defend their honor and to pose aggressively.<br />Maybe the asian guys here don't realise that some of the european streets are not really safe like they are in asia.<br />And making eye contact on the street is also a no-no you do not do that in the city unless you are asking for trouble.<br /><br />Please do keep that in mind when you see a so called "masculine" european. We really pretend to be tough but inside we are quite sweet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-17107836649880906092011-03-31T08:37:24.747+08:002011-03-31T08:37:24.747+08:00Asian males are JUST LIKE ALL MEN, if you’re attra...Asian males are JUST LIKE ALL MEN, if you’re attractive, smart, and you respect each other, men don't care about your race or origin. This stuff about “aggressive western woman” being a turnoff for Asian men, that’s total BS. The worlds changing look at any college campus! Many Asian males DO like western gals, not just white ones either. IF YOU’RE AN ASIAN MALE and CAN’T GET A WESTERN GIRL, Its you! Because know plenty of girls that like asian guys and asian guys that get girls! I’m mixed (not asian or white) and I've dated all types of foreign males including the hottest Asian guys, NO PROBLEM AT ALL (Chinese, Korean, Pilipino, Taiwanese, and Vietnamese) all respectful and smart. Being American was not an issue. This language barrier, distance, customs, family disapproval, house wife stuff is ALL BS. These articles are from ppl living in the past; NOW If a dude likes you that stuff won’t stop him from being with you. <br />Helping at home is teamwork, and asian males would rather have a wife/gf that doesn’t chase them for money, who works to lighten their financial load and we do this in the U.S. –plus most Asian men do cook, help with kids, and housework. They are loving, stable, and loyal that’s why I married one! My husband is a handsome model from China, SCORE! He’s half Korean, half Chinese, by far the hottest guy I had ever seen, educated, and respectful. He liked all my “aggressive” qualities, opposites attract and he liked that I get stuff done and work hard and I'm not boring–looks help of course but it wasn’t about money either!<br />My advice: Race/origin is irrelevant! If your smart, attractive (any race) to him, respectful, and faithful any guy is possible. This is honestly an issue of asian population in the west, m to f ratios, and lack cross cultural exposure for many asian men abroad.It will eventually change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-83201913530387758472011-02-19T20:10:50.527+08:002011-02-19T20:10:50.527+08:00well, it no truth, chinese man cant date white gir...well, it no truth, chinese man cant date white girls. seen i come to europe. i date countless white girls and a couple black girls as well. <br />regarding about chinese girls dating white guy. i dont heard many good ending. and lot been cheated by white guy. and Chinese culture will not tell their shame to other. keep it to herself. what a shame. and again some white been cheat by African and they tell the whole in the newspaper even come on tv. <br /><br />as for me i dont see any difference about race or colour. it just human.SeePhotographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230196023673548303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-4563022358371517282011-02-12T10:17:09.466+08:002011-02-12T10:17:09.466+08:00without close observation and real life experience...without close observation and real life experience it is hard to give such summary, well, I think it does make sense. most of chinese men actually are more feminine, boring, little. <br /><br />i am myself a chinese, and i would be interested in dating a western girl, i find western girls' personality more fascinating.binbinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696601595306733679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-64230131182243472952010-11-22T05:23:40.103+08:002010-11-22T05:23:40.103+08:00I was student university of plymouth, uk. I am a ...I was student university of plymouth, uk. I am a Chinese Malaysian guy, who like a young beautiful british Girl from brighton very much but never got the courage to let her know how i really felt for her. I left UK with regret. <br />I still think of her often. <br /><br />Don't be another coward like me. Just let the person know how you really feel for her.<br /><br />TAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-70028583617789651852010-09-25T08:02:11.530+08:002010-09-25T08:02:11.530+08:00Thanks for this thread, its been interesting readi...Thanks for this thread, its been interesting reading and the only one of its kind ive found to date. Im an English girl (well, middle aged woman)in England, with a huge crush on a Chinese guy who works next door to me in the local take away. He doesnt carry a handbag or where bright clothes btw, usually dresses in black actually and is very sexy (i guess a sexy guy is a sexy guy whatever nationality, this is the only Chinese guy ive ever fancied. Its hard to work him out though, i think he likes me too. Were on smiling and hello terms but id like more. I tried asking him out but said he didnt understand, though we spoke a bit, i know hes been here seven years, his name in English and that hes from China, though he didnt understand when i tried to ask where in China and my knowledge of China is 0, to my shame i couldnt name one Chinese town (least now i could name a few and say 'hello' to him in Chinese, if i ever get the courage. Im shy and get nervous talking to him and i think he is too. Id love to know if theres a chance or if im reading the signals wrong. I dont want to scare him off if our cultures are very different, like maybe i shouldnt have asked him out. Any tips gratefully appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-30621454239164232402010-09-25T07:05:16.040+08:002010-09-25T07:05:16.040+08:00Thanks for this thread, its been interesting readi...Thanks for this thread, its been interesting reading. I was looking for ways a western girl should approach a Chinese guy she really likes but its not easy to find, this is great! Im an English girl (well, middle aged woman)in England, with a huge (girly) crush on a Chinese guy who works next door to me in the local take away. He doesnt carry a handbag or where bright clothes btw, usually dresses in black actually and is very masculine and very sexy (i guess a sexy guy is a sexy guy whatever nationality, this is the only Chinese guy ive ever fancied. He speaks very little English, though we spoke a bit, i know hes been here seven years, the English spelling of his name, that hes from China (but didnt understand when i tried to find out where in China,but my knowledge of China was 0, to my shame i couldnt name one Chinese town (now i can name 3 and say 'hello' in Chinese, though ive not tested that out yet). We always smile if we pass each other and i think he likes me too but is hard to tell if hes just being polite. Im shy and get nervous talking to him. I tried asking him out but he said he didnt understand me. Id love to know him better but worried i'll make booboos, like asking him out maybe, and scare him off if our cultures are very different. Any tips gratefully appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-3706551643353796812010-05-30T12:15:04.961+08:002010-05-30T12:15:04.961+08:00As a Chinese guy, in general, I have found that t...As a Chinese guy, in general, I have found that the white Scandinavian girls found Asian boys very exotic, so most Chinese/Asian guys would find it very easy to date the Scandinavian girls. <br />In Sweden, most white Swedish girls love the Chinese/Asian guys, but because Swedish people tend to be shy and reserved, the Swedish girls would just look at me and give me a shy smile if they liked me.<br />In Copenhagen, on the other hand, the white Danish girls were not so shy, the Danish girls would just look at me like they did not try to hide that they really loved me and that they wanted me and my body. I felt like I was a sex symbol ( I am not kidding ) in Denmark. <br />On the whole, I like both white Swedish and Danish girls equally, it is just that the Swedish girls are more shy and reserved than Danish girls.<br />Norwegian girls were really nice too, although I felt that Oslo had more of a small town atmosphere with very warm and kind hearted white Norwegian girls.Tianhenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-8866185147481004642010-05-29T10:38:48.480+08:002010-05-29T10:38:48.480+08:00Mike you are right. Jonna lived in England and Aus...Mike you are right. Jonna lived in England and Austrila for more than 8 years and she is CERTAINALLY "Poisoned" by American media about us Asian guys.<br /><br />But dont worry, you dont have to live in USA, England and Ausltrila. Myself will go back to China after getting my PhD.<br /><br />:)<br /><br />JiangAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-56038335719288374822010-05-27T15:26:01.161+08:002010-05-27T15:26:01.161+08:00I am a young Chinese guy and I have been to Sweden...I am a young Chinese guy and I have been to Sweden and I speak Swedish.<br />I have also been to England and Australia and I also speak English.<br />I can see that there is a huge difference in the mentality and the attitude towards Asian guys.<br />In Sweden, most white Swedish girls were very friendly and open-minded, and a lot of white Swedish girls told me that they loved Asian guys. I had lots of white Swedish girlfriends.<br />Whereas in England/Australia, I never had a white English/Australian girlfriend, because it was obvious to me that English/Australian girls were very prejudiced against Asians.<br />The way that you are writing about Asians, I have the impression that you are not thinking like a white Swedish girl, you seem to be thinking more like a white English/Australian girl. I would never had thought that you were a Swedish girl.Mikenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-16910838953816287842010-05-10T04:29:29.251+08:002010-05-10T04:29:29.251+08:00there are two type of asian male/western female fr...there are two type of asian male/western female from my own experiences :<br />Type 1 : asian male acting like white male with white female<br />Type 2 : asian male acting like asian male with white female<br /><br />it's easier for type 1 to date white female. But to it's like a couple of 2 white people. The asian male only looks like asian but is completely white inside. It is a pity, he forgot his own culture<br /><br />Type 2 date white female who feel very close to asian culture. There is a better understanding. I like the idea to bring the western girl to the asian culture and philosophy. It would be more balance as nowadays it exist far much more wsestern girl with type 1 than type 2.<br /><br />Why should always asian male to act like white male to get white female ? It could be the other way isn't it ? It make me feel like white women never want to make compromise but expect asian male to make compromise which is unfair in my eyes.<br /><br />It's not a question of gender equality between man or woman but love affairs between white and asian seems to be unfair to the asian male.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-11289370793177824592010-04-16T22:53:28.681+08:002010-04-16T22:53:28.681+08:00i'm a european girl married to a chinese guy. ...i'm a european girl married to a chinese guy. we been married for almost 5 years and have the most beautiful 2 little boys. my husband is the only asian man i dated and i would just say that people are just people no matter the race, if it just happen that the person you get along the most is of a different race so be it... asia is a huge place there is all kind of people just like in the west or anywhere elseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-50335248674622552972010-04-05T17:20:59.367+08:002010-04-05T17:20:59.367+08:00I'm a Chinese guy and I've dated only asia...I'm a Chinese guy and I've dated only asian women, but I really find white girls attractive. I feel like I'm the only one here in my circle of friends. Still, I guess because I live in Hawaii, I have that fascination of having Eurasian kids as well. Sadly, its just the negative media portrayal of Asian men not getting love from Whites. Here in Hawaii, I really see a big influx of Asian male/White female pairing lately. I have a friend in Seattle confirmed that she sees a lot of that pairing in her state too. Hopefully, I can meet that pretty white chick someday. I don't have much in my area. Even if there is, they are taken. Maybe if I move to Seattle, things may get more interesting. The only thing that I may have to get used to is culture. I noticed that a lot of whites from the mainland don't seem to understand the cultural references in Hawaii, but I guess the same can be said for any other country. But for sure, I definitely wouldn't mind going out with a white girl, heck I marry her if I have to. God sees no color when it comes to dating/marriage.terry981https://www.blogger.com/profile/17945842251845719483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-79800778434347549782010-04-05T09:46:16.501+08:002010-04-05T09:46:16.501+08:00The only reason is language problem, less attracti...The only reason is language problem, less attractive Chinese women would accept a white man's love. You won't see the beautiful grade Chinese girls would have a Western bf because there are heaps of cool Chinese guys in the country. <br /><br />So, if the girls can choose, they'll prefer to stick in their own type, I can assert 99.98% of Chinese girls prefer Chinese men only in their deep hearts. But y u see many Western men dating Chinese girls? Because Western men go to China with the financial advantage, lacking of confidence in dating hot White girls, so eager to date Asian girls. Look at those old fat white men in Thailand, you'll see y.<br /><br />The financial condition is changing rapidly, sure u'll see more and more Chinese men with their Western lovers in the streets.Derekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14400848760184556115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-209595653685714752010-03-29T15:35:40.850+08:002010-03-29T15:35:40.850+08:00Hi
i wanted to share my experiences relating to y...Hi <br />i wanted to share my experiences relating to your post.<br /><br />Your general perception of asian men - the good and bad, well you're just seeing the tip of the ice berg. <br /><br />I have a korean female friend. She told me she wants an "European" man for a life long husband but considers asian men not attractive. Yes, a very superficial preference. She's very much into going out, shopping and eating. A simple soul but groomed poorly by her mother to pursue some one rich and that a man willl always be the bread winner and dominates her. A very submissive outlook indeed!. SHe talks about how eurasian kids/white kids looking really cute with blue or green eyes. she seems to have a big fascination about the fact going out with a good white looking man is like some sort of holy experience. I'm sure alot of asian men shares the same view if they are really into getting white females as long gf/one night stand or a wife.<br /><br />i do agree with you, cultural differences will always play a big role for asian men getting together with a western female. The success rate is perhaps smaller than an asian female getting a white male.M Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738164466388160536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-48686325450672542682010-03-16T23:57:16.153+08:002010-03-16T23:57:16.153+08:00That sounds more like an excuse not to bother to m...That sounds more like an excuse not to bother to me. You might not have noticed, but those "beautiful Asian girls" are actively seeking white men, not us. And in many cases, much like white women discounting asian men, those men are more likely to find white women more attractive than asian women. It's the whole reason the OP posted this in the first place!<br /><br />I also don't understand the reasoning to include "I am not petite"? Do you have to be petite to be attractive? A lot of men, whites included, feel intimidated by "larger" women. Doesn't make them any less attractive, just a different kind of attractive. Like different flavours of wine.<br /><br />As for body hair, hahaha... unless you actively do not care about maintenance and are proud of growing your body hair out, then I seriously doubt it would be an issue. My current girlfriend is very "hairy" on her arms... not hair hair you understand, just the furry kind... it's cute. It really isn't a problem, unless you have a moustache.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-68466771621291873402010-03-09T06:53:13.847+08:002010-03-09T06:53:13.847+08:00Wow this post has been going on for ages but since...Wow this post has been going on for ages but since it appears still sort of active, I will give my 2 cents too.<br /><br />I am a western girl, well, woman and contrary to what might have been mentioned here before, I find Chinese (or other Asian like Korean, Japanese for instance) very handsome. Yes, I would also say they appear more 'feminine' but more so because I found that a lot of Asian men take good care of themselves e.g. hairstyle, fashion etc. and then has more a feminine hint. But I love it... I like the features as well, especially the eyes. So now having said that even keeping cultural differences in mind, I would love to date an Asian guy, BUT... It's ME! I am totally insecure when it comes to that. I see all those beautiful Asian girls and I think that never in the world would an Asian guy find me attractive. I am not petite, I am very pale so that might be a plus but having seen Asian guys, I feel even as a woman I have more body hair... never mind that like most women I take care of that, but just to know... So I never approach Asian guys because I feel I can't measure up. And from what my female Asian friends tell me, Asian guys are (generally- I know it's an individual thing) quite shy in appraoching girls anyway but Western girls in particular. So even if there is hypothetically an Asian guy who woul find me attractive and nice- how on earth would we ever meet<br /><br />The second thing is- I am 32... so no big deal for a Westerner not to be married. I had a change in career, travelled extensively... but most Asians I know are married by that age- so again bad luck for me. So also living 'condition' (for lack of a better word) circumstance/ culture also again affect us ever coming togetherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com