tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post3151597196880902015..comments2023-10-29T21:14:24.325+08:00Comments on SHE in China: "Fight" for your right to be politeJonna Wibeliushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-65487376508248049212010-01-24T13:48:03.267+08:002010-01-24T13:48:03.267+08:00What a great resource!What a great resource!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-62768132423941887572009-11-23T18:46:59.337+08:002009-11-23T18:46:59.337+08:00Same in Burma, where I once lived. I asked a Burme...Same in Burma, where I once lived. I asked a Burmese friend the reason. He said it was so that the receiver of the gift/favour wasn't placed under any obligation to the giver - to take a gift creates a patron-client relationship, with the obligation to repay the gift at a future date. The haggling establishes that no such obligation exists.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15591062925663360015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-70537155186966818762009-11-23T09:09:50.654+08:002009-11-23T09:09:50.654+08:00Maverickml -that's great to hear! just what I...Maverickml -that's great to hear! just what I am aiming for. I don't want to step on anyone toes, rather just point out differences. <br /><br />Anonymous -whoops, thanks for pointing that out! Sometimes these posts are created in a bit of a morning rush... ;) Thanks for the compliment. Having someone tell me they like my writing makes my day! :) I love writing!Jonna Wibeliushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-18413156114097473492009-11-22T04:37:51.426+08:002009-11-22T04:37:51.426+08:00Don't know if you noticed but you've writt...Don't know if you noticed but you've written "nail" instead of "nali" a couple of times in your post=P Love your blog by the way - you're a great writer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-29727810332506173322009-11-20T22:25:12.610+08:002009-11-20T22:25:12.610+08:00It is an interesting experience to read your blog ...It is an interesting experience to read your blog even for a Chinese, those little things I will never notice if they weren't pointed out.Maverickmlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07724070741921826389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-14656010653073127542009-11-19T21:16:11.446+08:002009-11-19T21:16:11.446+08:00pingu -maybe next time u r having the fight u shou...pingu -maybe next time u r having the fight u should ask each other: "why are we doing this?!" Because u already know who's going to end up paying the bill, right?<br /><br />Anonymous -hahahhaha, I would love to say thanks but it feels so wrong... "哪里哪里阿, 我中文没有那么好。(I think I'm damaged forever?)<br /><br />Nicki -yeah good point. I haven't figured that one out either. Hence why I have ended up with numerous drinks at people's houses that I don't really want... But I still drink them to be polite :) <br /><br />马麟 -never play polite?! yeah, I guess there are all kinds! :) The Suzhou buses are enough for me to handle at this moment, thanks!<br /><br />Lianne -yeah, totally different culture compared to where I am from. If someone over there says: "It's on me!" everyone else goes: "ah, that's so kind! thank you!"<br /><br />Kanmuri -when people get seriously offended I get a bit scared... But yeah, it really is a big thing here. The host is supposed to pay!<br /><br />Carl -it is interesting! I never realized how many things are really like this over here until yesterday on that bus when I started thinking about it. Chinese culture is really interesting indeed. <br /><br />Anonymous -sometimes when I take taxis I tell the drivers to drive slower... I am not sure it would work with those bus drivers though... Fortunately there are rarely ice on the roads in SZ. <br /><br />Annie -ah that is so nice to hear! I am happy that u have started your own blog! I'll make sure to check it tomorrow! Moving to HK huh?! Exciting! I hope it all goes well! I might also make a move in the near future.. let's see!<br /><br />Jose -yeah that sounds like Sweden.. No one pays for anyone but themselves simply because it is too expensive to treat others. <br /><br />MKL -I guess I should. OK, next time!Jonna Wibeliushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-59799507857911231152009-11-19T18:50:56.080+08:002009-11-19T18:50:56.080+08:00Yes, Jonna, you should be more persistent :P Lesso...Yes, Jonna, you should be more persistent :P Lesson learned, haha..TGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15796150972580581810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-17582373070231041412009-11-19T16:33:51.382+08:002009-11-19T16:33:51.382+08:00I live in china for 10 years. A chinese lady comme...I live in china for 10 years. A chinese lady commented that in the USA no one is polite. Everyone pays his/her own bills at the restaurant and no one invets anyone else...José Carlos Costa Reis e Silvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03831611052911658326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-87041230035112050292009-11-19T15:41:11.162+08:002009-11-19T15:41:11.162+08:00Hey Jonna,
Hehe that is so true. I remember the f...Hey Jonna,<br /><br />Hehe that is so true. I remember the first few weeks when I was studying in Beijing I kept getting confused because people kept saying no when they really meant yes!<br /><br />By the way, just wanted to say I've been following your blog for a while, and I really like it. It has inspired me to start my own (http://asiannie.blogspot.com/) as well, first to recall my year spent in Asia; and also, because I'll also be moving indefinitely to Hong Kong in 6 weeks (while it is not the main reason, I cannot say your blog did not influence my final decision on this regard! ^_^ )., so I thought I would write about my experiences too.<br /><br />Anyways, take care Jonna and keep up with the good work!<br /><br /><br />Annie洪丽月https://www.blogger.com/profile/05429968194386450002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-66038242765188031392009-11-19T15:04:49.601+08:002009-11-19T15:04:49.601+08:00Be careful! I just heard from my mom that some cr...Be careful! I just heard from my mom that some crazy ass buses in China killed a bunch of people because of the icy roads due to the winter storms.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-6546637937620800422009-11-19T11:15:18.625+08:002009-11-19T11:15:18.625+08:00Thanks for the "heads up", Jonna, as I r...Thanks for the "heads up", Jonna, as I really had no idea that the culture required that much negotiating just to show some kindness to someone. Interesting!Carlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03198963277601105265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-41114445861179096722009-11-19T10:40:21.261+08:002009-11-19T10:40:21.261+08:00Reminds me of that time when I tried to go dutch w...Reminds me of that time when I tried to go dutch with the bill and my ex-boyfriend was totally insulted and finally insisted on paying! I thought it was ridicule but I was happy not to have anything to pay!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-58526283206486285882009-11-19T09:59:51.889+08:002009-11-19T09:59:51.889+08:00haha! its a little like that too here in the phili...haha! its a little like that too here in the philippines although we don't argue that long or as hard.<br /><br />leethroughthelens.blogspot.comLiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01478259192131138686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-69064555872830903752009-11-19T09:54:43.400+08:002009-11-19T09:54:43.400+08:00It's a large country, you always find someone ...It's a large country, you always find someone over polite like the lady you encountered on bus, or totally shameless person like me--I never play polite on the dinner table.<br />About the bus speed? Well, in Suzhou it's actually fine. Next time you may try WuHan's. It's said: bus chasing cab is not exciting, bus chasing bus is.马麟https://www.blogger.com/profile/10730658437576860064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-84049979340984003872009-11-19T09:49:11.012+08:002009-11-19T09:49:11.012+08:00True! But how do you get people to stop nagging yo...True! But how do you get people to stop nagging you when you really don't want whatever they are so politely trying to give you?Nickihttp://mouseneb.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-19831328707254450212009-11-19T09:39:15.323+08:002009-11-19T09:39:15.323+08:00JOnna, 你的汉语已经到了相当水平,快成了中国通了。
Take my compliment, ...JOnna, 你的汉语已经到了相当水平,快成了中国通了。<br /><br />Take my compliment, say 'thank' rather than 'nali, nali'. haha.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-33707764384142109462009-11-19T08:35:31.411+08:002009-11-19T08:35:31.411+08:00hahah
it's funny how Chinese culture works :)
...hahah<br />it's funny how Chinese culture works :)<br /><br />When we go out for family dinner, we engage in this meaningless activity all the time. D:Pingunoreply@blogger.com