tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post3856583338521815149..comments2023-10-29T21:14:24.325+08:00Comments on SHE in China: What's considered as embarrassing yourself?Jonna Wibeliushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-76524021934705849992009-03-19T08:04:00.000+08:002009-03-19T08:04:00.000+08:00Try looking up information on Face Negotiation The...Try looking up information on Face Negotiation Theory in Asian countries (I think there have been some specific studies done in South Korea). They should give you a pretty good background as to why its ok to be embarassed in one situation and not another.~*Ery*~https://www.blogger.com/profile/05801801311162255009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-69474015332460145532009-03-18T14:37:00.000+08:002009-03-18T14:37:00.000+08:00haha!! tahts all so true!!You live a surreal life....haha!! tahts all so true!!<BR/><BR/>You live a surreal life. i've got a story on my blog you might enjoy. its the latest one :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-4432543578973662912009-03-18T07:02:00.000+08:002009-03-18T07:02:00.000+08:00Chris -that's just how I feel.. but a lot of peopl...Chris -that's just how I feel.. but a lot of people explained it here.. obviously faces are only lost if the person makes a fool of him/herself in front of people s/he knows... <BR/><BR/>Woai -Omg.. that's hilarious!!! New thing on my to-do-list: party on a silent disco. Thanks for sharing! <BR/><BR/>konichiwa, bitches-the gym is my fave hang out place here in Suzhou.. not only can I sweat as much as I want without anyone giving me strange looks, but it's also a great place for people-watching!Jonna Wibeliushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-83586172396071162322009-03-18T04:56:00.000+08:002009-03-18T04:56:00.000+08:00Very interesting!!Thank you))Very interesting!!<BR/><BR/>Thank you))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-51182978816076695122009-03-18T03:40:00.000+08:002009-03-18T03:40:00.000+08:00That's quite funny (and brave?). How u manage to ...That's quite funny (and brave?). How u manage to maintain composure is beyond me :)Babygrandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16381055984022336304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-86169881643021907442009-03-18T01:03:00.000+08:002009-03-18T01:03:00.000+08:00Thank you for the mental image of thay lady crawli...Thank you for the mental image of thay lady crawling on the floor, it made my day. lolLittle Tigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00078758096109922028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-20811285702967545582009-03-17T19:36:00.000+08:002009-03-17T19:36:00.000+08:00HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA that is hilarious!!! crawling on ...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA that is hilarious!!! crawling on the floor and pouting. Fantastic.<BR/><BR/>Why does it sound like so many people there are nuts? Like bonkers? The guy with the walking picnic also sounds like he has a few screws loose... maybe you just have an "interesting" gym.The Candid Yankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467055634256124294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-52739499172788248772009-03-17T17:46:00.000+08:002009-03-17T17:46:00.000+08:00Jonna, I admire your unimaginable amount of self-r...Jonna, I admire your unimaginable amount of self-restraint. I would have bursted out laughing the moment she starts crawling.<BR/><BR/>@ WoAi, I heard of this group of people who got together last year and had an ipod rave right in the middle of Union Square in New York City. So I am buying your silent disco story. I actually think it's quite genius!bkbjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05333648452226205639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-52494415795579614222009-03-17T15:17:00.000+08:002009-03-17T15:17:00.000+08:00Jonna - Not at all!!!! It's quite popular now bec...Jonna - Not at all!!!! It's quite popular now because it also means places don't have to worry about complaints.<BR/><BR/>Just Google "silent disco". It's too early for April Fools Day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-15415737785304149822009-03-17T15:10:00.000+08:002009-03-17T15:10:00.000+08:00I don't know how you managed to keep your composur...I don't know how you managed to keep your composure during that, I think I would have walked out with my tongue severely bitten into several pieces!! <BR/><BR/>I've constantly been slightly confused with the whole concept of losing face, I've seen people make fools of themselves in similar situations and they don't care in the slightest, but then, when it comes to confrontation with students I have seen major embarrassment.Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05671311883343642773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-44296262530284348912009-03-17T13:05:00.000+08:002009-03-17T13:05:00.000+08:00pingu -naaah, I think this lady was dancing for he...pingu -naaah, I think this lady was dancing for herself! :) <BR/><BR/>sour -yeah in Sweden I bet someone would call the police if they saw her... ;) <BR/><BR/>kanmuri -yeah u r probably right. Interesting example about that phone booth. <BR/><BR/>Don Tai -no, I am not. Quite happy bout that (although I do go for runs outside... isn't that considered quite 'crazy' over here?!) <BR/><BR/>Woai -for real?! You're pulling my leg here, aren't u? <BR/><BR/>njd -I also find it entertaining and refreshing (at most times). Especially since it is so different to how peolpe act back in Sweden..Jonna Wibeliushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08954672453008704738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-43238086823156362732009-03-17T12:07:00.000+08:002009-03-17T12:07:00.000+08:00Hahaha - Classic. I just always assumed that the C...Hahaha - Classic. I just always assumed that the Chinese simply don't think things like that are embarrassing. No deep psychological thoughts about it here:-)<BR/>And while I think it is humerous and would never do things like this myself...I find it quite pleasant that they don't care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-42461668620679429842009-03-17T11:49:00.000+08:002009-03-17T11:49:00.000+08:00Jonna I think they key thing here is that SHE didn...Jonna I think they key thing here is that SHE didn't think it was embarrassing so therefore, no loss of face. Just like the guy who proudly wears bright yellow trousers thinking he looks like a Paris fashion week model.<BR/><BR/>Have you not heard of silent discos? You are given headphones and there are 2 DJs. You choose which you want to listen to then just dance away. It's called silent disco because if you want to chat with friends at the bar, you just remove the headphones and you hear nothing but see one group of people dancing to two different sets of music!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-17895731084873232982009-03-17T11:43:00.000+08:002009-03-17T11:43:00.000+08:00"Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the sexiest dan..."Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the sexiest dancer of all. I am, I am, I....Hey, where'd this white girl come from? I'll show her who's the sexiest dancer of them all!"<BR/><BR/>I'm sure the guys liked the show. Yes, China has crazy people as well. And you're not one of them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-55842943855325196452009-03-17T11:30:00.000+08:002009-03-17T11:30:00.000+08:00@Lost in Americana: I beg to differ. Japanese pe...@Lost in Americana: I beg to differ. Japanese people can be downright rude when they want to. They just do it differently. Korean people can be quite insulting too, just look what happens on the web. Human beings are human beings, no matter where.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-78557309471045223882009-03-17T11:29:00.000+08:002009-03-17T11:29:00.000+08:00Chinese people really likes to show off in front o...Chinese people really likes to show off in front of other people, but especially foreigners. She was just saying "hey! I'm just as sexy, if not more sexy than you!" Or something like that...<BR/><BR/>Haven't you seen this stuff on the web before?:<BR/><BR/>http://www.chinasmack.com/pictures/daughter-of-shanxi-coal-mine-boss-shows-off-her-us-lifestyle/<BR/><BR/>What that girl is doing is exactly the same, just replace money with sexiness (this is a word?)...Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11656332988854440614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-56831168365439384662009-03-17T11:14:00.000+08:002009-03-17T11:14:00.000+08:00Chinese people don't like to lose face in front of...Chinese people don't like to lose face in front of their parents and elders - people who they respect. <BR/><BR/>They don't care when it comes to strangers - in fact they often like to make absolute fools of themselves as you saw with the dancing girl. If anything, the Chinese are the LEAST sensitive about being embarrassed in front of people of all the Asian countries - they go to great lengths to play tricks on each other in order to get some money. <BR/><BR/>The Japanese and Koreans, by default, are much more conservative about keeping respect for each other.Lost in Americanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01872829746603676269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-14243602436684707612009-03-17T10:23:00.000+08:002009-03-17T10:23:00.000+08:00I think it has something to do with who is watchin...I think it has something to do with who is watching. If you ridicule yourself at work, this might have repercussions but if you ridicule yourself in front of strangers, it's not important, because they don't count.<BR/><BR/>They did an interesting experiement in Japan. Usually, Japanese people are really polite, but when they are with people they don't know (like in the train, a public place)they can be quite rude. So they had about 9 Japanese people squeeze themselves in a telephone booth (they took the phone out) and managed it without problem. Then then left the people together in a room for about an hour. After that, they tried to fit them in the telephone booth again: they could only fit 3. The people had got to know each other and now knew their respective places in the social hierarchy. They didn't want to be rude.<BR/><BR/>So maybe it is something similar to that ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-56289651850376177922009-03-17T10:08:00.000+08:002009-03-17T10:08:00.000+08:00Maybe this is a cultural difference between. I can...Maybe this is a cultural difference between. I cannot say this is a showoff and she maybe just wanna dance in a room with mirror.<BR/><BR/>People do not aware what they do is ridiculed themselves in front of others. if aware, i don't think someone will do this. (who want to have a RED face in front of others?)mantsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14466019253420608548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-78117696967218379522009-03-17T09:26:00.000+08:002009-03-17T09:26:00.000+08:00HAHA!! oh man, that's crazy! i can't believe it! c...HAHA!! oh man, that's crazy! i can't believe it! crawling toward the mirror. it is strange, how that wouldn't be considered "losing face". it would here in Canada, i totally LOL-ed about it. haha! awful!novahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10999587070684124074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8491088023973371313.post-39185510434894029562009-03-17T08:56:00.000+08:002009-03-17T08:56:00.000+08:00Maybe she was dancing specifically for you to enjo...Maybe she was dancing specifically for you to enjoy? ;)<BR/><BR/>But yeah, either she doesn't think what she's doing is weird and in anyway jeopardise her 'face', or she doesn't care what you think about her.<BR/>*shrugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com