Don't lie about lunch plans
One of my teachers at the new uni is a lovely, young, Chinese woman. We’ve gotten well on from the start, only though recently I’ve noticed that she squeezes in unnecessary lies every now and then. Like one Friday after class, when she insisted on showing me her office.
There I was, ooohing and aaahing to her neat desk and bookshelves (didn't really know what else to do), when she suddenly asked me what I was doing for lunch.
-I don’t know, I said. Maybe I’ll just grab something from the food station downstairs.
-Why don’t you go to the big square across the road? There are tonnes of restaurants!
-Yeah I know, I said. But I don’t really know any people here yet, and it is a bit boring to go alone. So the food station will do for now!
-Oh, OK, well what a shame. Today I brought my own lunch, but how about next Friday we go together?
-Eh… sure! I said. This was not what I had been fishing for, but why not?
Ten minutes later I was sitting at the café at the first floor when I met one Chinese student that I talked to during registration. She joined my table and we chatted for a bit, until she suddenly said:
-Oh, and there’s one of your teachers, she's also getting lunch!
I turned around, only to see my very teacher, lining up at the same food station where I had lined up only 5 minutes ago, obviously getting her lunch. She pretended she didn’t see me.
I felt kind of… confused. I don’t blame her for not wanting to have lunch with me, I never intended for that to happen anyways, it was she who brought it up! But lying about brining your own lunch and then 10 minutes go downstairs to get some? What’s the point of that? It felt like such an unnecessary lie. She might as well have told me she had lunch plans or said nothing or whatever. But what's the point of pretending to be polite and friendly when what you really are doing is lying? Things like that don't really go down well with me.
Sure, most of us lie (white lies or big lies) at times. But rule number one: don’t lie when you know you’re going to get caught.