Yesterday I met a Shanghainese girl who’d re-located to Suzhou with her husband because of work. Now, the distance between Shanghai and Suzhou isn't huge, and with a 45 min train ride you can get to ‘the other side’ without too much drama (the biggest drama might be buying the tickets). Still, the girl told me that she wasn’t so happy in Suzhou and that she constantly missed her family ‘back home.’
-Your family? But I thought your husband moved with you? I asked.
-He did. But my son didn’t. He’s just a child, so he's still living in Shanghai with my parents.
-But… like, why didn’t he move with you? Is it because your working so much over here that
you don’t have time to look after him?
-Well yes… I am working a lot over here. But also, the school and education options are much better in Shanghai than Suzhou. So we figured we better leave him there. But I miss him so much!
-Is it just temporary?
-No, probably not. We are looking into buying a property here in Suzhou soon…
Wow. Now that’s when you realize just how important it is to have your kid in the ‘right’ school over here. Not that I didn't already knew. But sometimes you forget just HOW important it is to people.